OVERCOMING OFFENCE Part 2
Pastor Wole Gbogboade
Text: Psalm 119: 161-165 KJV
“Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” v. 165
The word of God is paramount in dealing with and overcoming offence. Knowledge of God’s word coupled with close relationship that David had with God invariably helped him to overcome offence especially in dealing with Saul.
“And Saul said unto his servants, provide me now a man that can play well, and bring him to me.
Then answered one of the servants, and said, Behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, that is cunning in playing, and a mighty valiant man, and a man of war, and prudent in matters, and a comely person, and the LORD is with him.” 1 Samuel 16: 17-18 KJV
The word of God is what our Lord Jesus Christ use as a sword of the Spirit to defeat the Enemy when He was tempted. Matt. 4: 3-11. Knowledge of the word and its proper application to our lives and challenges, help us to overcome, live a victorious life devoid of offence. Wisdom to live right with the fear of God is derived from God’s word for successful Christian living. Despising the word of God simply makes one foolish. Psalm 119: 105; 14: 1.
Paul, the Apostle admonish us,
“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.” Col. 3: 16 KJV
How do we react to offence? First and foremost, if you are the cause of offence, quickly repent and ask the Lord to forgive you. Then, humble yourself by saying sorry to the one (s) you have offended. Be willing to apologize to your spouse, children or anyone you have offended. It may interest you to note that your spouse you think has offended you might even be reacting to your action which invariably made you the cause of offence sometimes. Thus, you are taming your ego thereby humbling yourself before God and allowing His word and Spirit to correct, lead and guide you. Even, if you are offended, it’s better that you initiate peace even when the one who causes offence is not willing. The mature always initiate reconciliation. Gal. 6: 2-3. James 5: 16
2- Learn to overlook trivial issues: Don’t allow anything to bring pain to your heart. Let go and let God’s word override your thought on any issue.
3- Forgive: To deal with anger, malice, bitterness etc. We need to learn to quickly forgive. Eph. 4: 26-27. 31-32
4- Love: The only debt we owe to ourselves for life is love. Rom. 13: 8 We need to study the attributes of love which the Bible says, cover multitude of sin. 1 Peter 4: 8. 1 Cor. 13: 4-8. Speak the truth in love. Eph. 4: 15; Prov. 25: 11, 15
5- Intercession: We should be willing to pray and intercede for anyone in offence whether they realize it or not. By praying for your brother, you will win him to the Lord’s side and save a soul from hell. James 5: 17-20
6- Encourage yourself in the Lord. David got to that point at Ziklag when, due to no fault of his, yet the people he was leading wanted to stone him in the midst of their wailing and perplexity. He had to encourage himself in the Lord even when the priest had become helpless. 1 Sam. 30: 6-8. Who you know is who you run to on the day of trouble. The Lord comforted him and made him to pursue, overtake and recover all. v. 17-20
7- Holy Spirit: The Holy Spirit is our teacher, our guide, our instructor; He reveals the mind of Christ to us on any particular issue and remind us of the word of the Lord. John 13: 26, 16: 8-12; 1Cor. 2: 10. We should have constant fellowship with the Holy Spirit and allow His leadership in our lives by following His leading always. It shall be well with us in Jesus name.
In conclusion, we must free ourselves from all form of animosity in view of the fact that it springs offence. Heb. 12: 14. Endeavour to live in peace with all men and be willing to forgive easily. Let’s not revenge, retaliate or pay back evil for evil. Instead, leave vengeance for God and repay good for evil so God can save others through you and avail you with more of His grace. Rom. 12: 17-21, Matt. 6: 14-15. Pray for your enemy, bless and curse not. Matt. 5: 43-47; Rom. 12: 14-16.
Don’t be offended and whenever you are, don’t allow flesh or emotion to rule over you. Rather, allow the word and the Holy Spirit to teach you what to say and guide you out of it by settling every issue that cause offence amicably.
“Whenever we have the opportunity, we have to do what is good for everyone, especially for the family of believers.” Gal. 6: 10 GW
Divine: There is God’s dimension sometimes in whatever happen to the children of God. Job is a good example here whose travail was ordained of God. His friends who did not utter any word for seven days and night when they visited him, how come they became miserable friends by causing offence for Job when they started to talk? Job who had been confessing positive before and would not sin against God became himself a miserable sinner as Elihu said. But, unknown to him, it was God that orchestrated his travail just to test is faith and teach him patience. James 4: 7-11. Therefore, instead of asking why me, Lord? Or how can this happen to me? Ask, Lord what do you want me to learn from this experience? What lesson to learn from this issue? Once you search your heart and you are not condemned, allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you what to learn and how to handle it. The Ministry of the Holy Spirit is essential in our quest to handle offence.
Furthermore, in the context of last of Part 1 shared last, the word of God is against anyone who cause the children to sin. Since they learn fast from what they see adults say and do especially, we have to be careful not to lead them astray. It is a terrible thing to do according to the Lord. Matt. 18: 6. But, it is highly rewarding to receive Christ like children and lead them like Christ. v. 4-5
“It’s the person who loves brother and sister who dwells in God’s light and doesn’t block the light from others.” 1 John 2: 10 MSG
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